After your personal relationship with God, the most important thing in your life is FAMILY!!
God knows that. Thats why as soon as He created the universe, He created Adam and Eve and told them to start their family. Multiply and replenish the earth. People need one another. We are not meant to do life alone. We need the love, friendship and companionship of other people.
There is power in unity. When a man and woman marry, God unites them spirit soul and body. They become as one with each other and with God. When a man and woman join forces together to achieve anything, they have so much power that nothing can stop them from succeeding. Their homes are successful. Their business is successful. Their individual lives are happier and successful.
Married couples must be diligent to keep strife, division, unforgivenss out of their marriage. When those negative traits are evident and allowed you are opening door for Satan to come in and rip your family apart.
Also there must be unity in any business or occupational decisions that are made. One partner can not be our traveling and pursuing a career that the spouse is not in agreement with. If extensive traveling, or long separation is required with your job or occupation, accommodations for the spouse should be considered to accompany them.
Its hard to have a close intimate relationship with someone who is gone all the time. It also gives opportunity for the spouses to find someone else to spend their time with instead of each other.
Family is where we mature physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Family is where our gifts and talents are discovered and encouraged. Family is where our character and personalities are developed.
Family is our safe place. Our place of refuge from a mean and hateful world. We should feel peaceful and content at home with our families. We need to know that family is where we are accepted and loved for who we are. We can let our guard down and trust we are surrounded by people who care about us and are committed to us no matter what.
Family is where we can find help and support for our life dreams and passions.
Your children grow up, get careers and families of their own, but that does not mean you leave the relationship with your family. Your parents, grandparents, siblings are all just as important after you become an adult as they are when you are young. Your relationship changes from being a child/adult relationship to an adult/adult relationship, but it is still just as important as it has always been. We need the compassion, love, wisdom and guidance of our family.
Your family is where you have formed a bond of trust, safety and commitment with. You know these people. They have proven their love and loyalty to you over the years. Your family is the place where you can put your guard down and relax knowing that you are surrounded by those who truly love you and want the best for you.
Because life is so busy, you have to be determined to stay close with one another. You have to make definite plans and schedule time with one another. Good loving families helps to make you a stable, confident secure person.
Today, people in the world are confused about right and wrong, they are hurt and broken inside, and emotionally distraught and damaged because of terrible life experiences that probably started in a perverse and dysfunctional family life.
Satan is our enemy. He often starts trying to ruin our lives and hurt us even as small children. This can happen even in families who are doing everything right. The difference is a family that is living in a close relationship with God conquers and defeats the attacks from Satan. People who do not have a strong supportive loving family remain damaged inside and grow to have families of their own where that same damage and dysfunction is passed on from generation to generation.
Satan is working overtime to destroy families. He starts with bringing abuse and pain to your children. He divides spouses from one another. BE ON GUARD AGAINST THIS SPIRITUAL FAMILY WARFARE. If you are walking close with God and following His leadership, if you are trying to be the Christian God wants YOU to be there will be little room for Satan to attack your family and break it up. If there is no physical abuse going on and your life is not in danger, then GOD HAS A WAY TO FIX YOUR MARRIAGE. It is easier to fix what you have then start a new relationship. It is more blessed for you and your children to see you work out your issues and find the love for one another that God instructs than start over with another person.
Just keep in mind, the main attack from Satan against the family is DIVISION. Don’t let those little offenses between you and your spouse go unresolved. Don’t avoid the conversations that is needed to keep peace, kindness and respect flowing. Satan causes strife and division among the children and parents. He brings siblings against one another. The relationship with the children is just as important as the relationship with the adults. Children have feelings and emotions too that need to be validated or corrected.
Having and maintaining a close loving Godly family is a full-time job. But because they are suppose to be the most important people in your life its worth the time and commitment. You have to be intentional to show love, kindness, appreciation and respect. You have to be committed to PEACE AND UNITY no matter what. ALL FAMILIES HAVE ISSUES. The difference in a godly family is that we look to God to resolve our problems and issues. Talking to one another in a loving respectful manner is the first step. DIVORCE IS NEVER AN OPTION. CHRISTIANS ARE COMMITTED TO FINDING A LOVING RESOLUTION.
James 3:13-18 Living Bible, “If you are wise, live a life of steady goodness so that only good deeds will pour forth. And if you don’t brag about them, then you will be truly wise! 14 And by all means don’t brag about being wise and good if you are bitter and jealous and selfish; that is the worst sort of lie. 15 For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, inspired by the devil. 16 For wherever there is jealousy or selfish ambition, there will be disorder and every other kind of evil. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure and full of quiet gentleness. Then it is peace-loving and courteous. It allows discussion and is willing to yield to others; it is full of mercy and good deeds. It is wholehearted and straightforward and sincere. 18 And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of goodness.
Conflict resolution is a must to keep a healthy united family. When you are in conflict the last thing people want to hear is how great you are and how much you do and how insufficient and ignorant everyone is around you. Talk to people in your family and tell them how much you care about them and how much you appreciate them. Apologize for your part in the conflict. Then tell them there are a few things you would appreciate them changing if they could. That settles conflict much better.
GOD HATES DIVORCE. He hates it because it divides and separates the family. It causes deep emotional pain to the children and everyone involved. Not just young children. It can cause emotional pain for your older children as well.
Some relationships must be separated for the safety and life of the people involved. NO ONE should stay in a relationship with abuse and violence. God gives us permission for divorce because this behavior exist. God also says He allows divorce if there has been cheating and infidelity. But people divorce today just because they are bored with their partner or they like the advantages and excitement they think they could have with someone else.
Satan will bring people into your life to tempt you and separate you from your family. Don’t cheat on your spouse. Don’t confide in people about your troubled marriage who will take advantage of your weaknesses and vulnerability. The rate of divorce is just as high among church attending people as it is in the unsaved world. This should not be happening.
Families must be on guard and aware of these attacks from Satan. Don’t allow strife and arguing to happen in the house. Don’t go to bed angry or offended with one another. Apologize quickly and seek compromise and resolution when there are disagreements.
Don’t talk about your spouse or your parents or your children in a negative manner. Don’t allow other people to talk about them either, even if its true. If you are separated from your parents, spouse, children, grandparents then call them and make amends as soon as possible.
Every family has toxic members in it. If you are dealing with people like that, of course you can not associate with them or live with them UNTIL THEY GENUINELY CHANGE. But you should pray for their recovery. Pray for their emotional and spiritual needs to be healed. Pray they get saved. You don’t have to be the one to lead them to God. Pray and ask God to send laborers into their lives that they will listen to.
I have several toxic people in my extended family that I do not associate with, but I pray for them and pray they will turn their lives over to Jesus before its too late for them.
In my immediate family with my children and grandchildren, I arrange regular times EVERY WEEK for us to eat together and enjoy one another company. Usually every Sunday after church. Life is busy. So you must make intentional reservations and plans with one another so you don’t drift apart. We also try to take weekend trips together at least once or twice a year. Making happy family memories together, lasts forever in people’s soul and heart. Its a wonderful legacy to leave to your family. My parents and siblings have all passed away. But I remember all the wonderful times we had when we went to Disney together or to a snow lodge in the winter. I remember everyone getting together for Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter and birthdays. I remember just meeting at one another house for no reason to have a cookout or watch football. Those memories are worth more than any amount of money.
As a Christian family, we must be on guard and aware of these attacks from Satan and not let it happen. Be committed and devoted to peace, love, forgiveness in your family. Don’t hold a grudge and offenses against one another. NO ONE IS PERFECT. Accept the flaws and shortcomings of others and celebrate their strengths and talents instead.
Hollywood entertainment and television shows greatly influence the family unit. More so today than in the past because people spend more time watching TV and entertaining themselves with the trash and perversion on their television, computers and cell phones. I was a child of the 50’s. TV was so much different then than it is today. All the shows back then were wholesome family oriented programming. You didn’t have to monitor your children to make sure they were not watching something inappropriate. Today in 2021, nothing but vulgar, perverted, sexual, violent, dysfunctional shows have saturated the air waves through television and internet. Even many cartoons are nasty and crude. Music and entertainment is vile and disgusting. Every program promotes sex, promiscuity, homosexuality, violence and drugs, alcohol and dysfunction. Even some news channels and talk shows are R-rated and ungodly. This is what people are feeding their eyes and ears with everyday. This is what our children are watching everyday. The dysfunction and ungodliness has become a way of normality. Society has accepted all this twisted behavior and lifestyle as an example of how they should live their own lives. It influences them to mimic and express the views of Hollywood instead of the truths and lifestyle that God instructs us from the Bible.
I have gone to dinner with some Christian friends and family and instead of talking with one another they are playing on their phones, smiling and laughing at people acting foolish that they don’t even know. I have been invited to Christian homes for dinner, they will have a very inappropriate program on TV, be holding their phone in their hand scanning dating apps, and instatrash and not even have a normal face to face conversation with real people thats sitting in the same room with them. THATS WRONG. That is total obsession, brainwash, distractions that lure you away from the things that actually matter in your life. PEOPLE AND FAMILY. Sadly, I know that either you are one of these people or you are associated with people on a regular basis who do this.
God is not going to compete with your technology. God is not going to tell you to put down your cell phone and have a genuine relationship with your Christian family and friends. He expects you to exercise some self control and discipline and do this yourself.
When God created man, He created us to need Him and His way of living, in order for us to be complete well balanced human beings. Without God and without a family of Godly people to love you unconditionally and teach you how a true Godly family lives, you never reach that level of mental, spiritual and emotional wellness and peace that God designed all of us to have.
WE MUST HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD AND A GODLY FAMILY TO BE COMPLETE WHOLE HUMAN BEINGS.
You can take a successful talented person who has obtained all that the world has to offer, but because they don’t have their heart and spirit connected to Almighty God they are miserable, discontent, unhappy people, searching for true love.
God is the only One that can make you truly happy and fill that love void in your life. Life is not all about fame, fortune and power. Life is not 24/7 fun. The most important things in life are unseen. They are spiritual. When you loose focus on that you open yourself up to hurt pain and a feeling of emptiness.
The earlier in life we learn that and experience that we happier we are. We all need loving, fun family memories and experiences to keep our souls rooted and grounded. If we are not raised in a family like that God has invited any of us to join His family at anytime and start that loving family journey.
There is so much teaching and counsel in the bible about family from Genesis to Revelation that there is no way I could cover every thing. That is why it is so important to get your King James bible and read it for yourself so God can tell you everything you need to know concerning “YOUR” life and family.
God discusses everything in the bible from dating, to marriage, to having and raising children. He discusses every topic your marriage may encounter from finance and taxes, sexual relationship and even whether to stay in a marriage or end it in divorce. Of course if you are seeking God before you choose a partner and following His advice you can have a very happy and lasting marriage that does not consider divorce as an option.
God’s advise about family has not changed since creation. This world began with one family, that was Adam and Eve. God was the core and center of their initial union.
Genesis 1:26-31, “Then God said, “Let us make a man someone like ourselves, to be the master of all life upon the earth and in the skies and in the seas. So God made man like his Maker. Like God did God make man; Man and maid did he make them.
And God blessed them and told them, “Multiply and fill the earth and subdue it; you are mas- ters of the fish and birds and all the animals. And look! I have given you the seed-bearing plants throughout the earth and all the fruit trees for your food. And I’ve given all the grass and plants to the animals and birds for their food.” Then God looked over all that he had made, and it was excellent in every way. This ended the sixth day.
Genesis 2:4,7-25 Living Bible, ” Here is a summary of the events in the creation of the heavens and earth when the Lord God made them. The time came when the Lord God formed a man’s body from the dust of the ground and breathed into it the breath of life. And man became a living person. Then the Lord God planted a garden in Eden, to the east, and placed in the garden the man he had formed. The Lord God planted all sorts of beautiful trees there in the garden, trees pro- ducing the choicest of fruit. At the center of the garden he placed the Tree of Life, and also the Tree of Conscience, giving knowledge of Good and Bad.
The Lord God placed the man in the Garden of Eden as its gardener, to tend and care for it. But the Lord God gave the man this warning: “You may eat any fruit in the garden except fruit from the Tree of Conscience—for its fruit will open your eyes to make you aware of right and wrong, good and bad. If you eat its fruit, you will be doomed to die.” And the Lord God said, “It isn’t good for man to be alone; I will make a companion for him, a helper suited to his needs.” So the Lord God formed from the soil every kind of animal and bird, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever he called them, that was their name. But still there was no proper helper for the man. Then the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep, and took one of his ribs and closed up the place from which he had removed it, and made the rib into a woman, and brought her to the man. “This is it!” Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because she was taken out of a man.” This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife in such a way that the two become one person. Now although the man and his wife were both naked, neither of them was embarrassed or ashamed.
Marriage is a good thing. God designed the marriage relationship and blesses it when He is considered a member of the union. God intended for a Christian man and a Christian woman to marry and raise Christian children and let that be reproduced from generation to generation.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
The family is the foundation and core of society. It is the backbone of who we are as a community. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “it takes a village”, well that is true. The adult you end up being is developed as a child in your family and your neighborhood.
To be a well rounded human being you need the wisdom and nurturing influence of a Godly mom, dad, aunt, uncle, grandparents, neighborhood friends, teachers, counselors and acquaintances. You need a strong Christian faith family and pastor. We need one another. But even if you don’t have a supportive Christian family group, God is your family and He will make you grow to be the person you need to be.
Nothing means more to God after your own individual relationship with Him than FAMILY WITH ONE ANOTHER. God never intended for us to do life alone. He put us together as a unit to help, edify and be there for one another physically and emotionally.
Even when your ready to marry one day, you’re not leaving the love and friendship of your family. You should have chosen someone to add to your family tree that they also will love and have friendship with. When you marry you are expanding your family not loosing a member. You’re suppose to be gaining more friends and Godly relationships as we progress in life.
Your family is suppose to grow together and mature together and do life together. We are hearts united together with God. Making wonderful memories with one another that lives on even after they have crossed over to Heaven.
Family is constituted by God in marriage and is composed of persons related to one another by marriage, blood or adoption. Your spiritual values and influence that you obtain as a child develops the morals and character in you to form the adult that you are today. Family is very important to the development of all of mankind. Family is where you learn to live life and where you learn to love.
The bible says, “the fruit does not fall far from the tree.” That means children grow up to be like their parents. If your parents were kind, honest, loving, Christian, bible believing people, that will usually be the direction you will choose in life as well. That will be the character and values you will express in life. However if your parents were mean, lying, rude, ungodly people there is a strong chance your life and personality will mimic that same behavior.
When God formed the “FAMILY” at the beginning of creation with Adam and Eve, His desire was to start the world off with a Godly family and have it repeated from generation to generation. God of course, was the beginning and core of the establishment.
God’s plan is for parents to spend time with their children to nurture them and teach them about life. We spend time with our children so we can be living examples for them to follow. They can see how we react to people and treat people. We show our children God’s love and we show our children how to share God’s love with those around us.
Spending quality time with our children helps them learn how to choose the right friendships in life. When my children were very young I chose their friends and decided who they could and could not hang out with. But as they matured they learned to choose quality friends on their own who were committed to living the same Christian lifestyle we were committed to. When acquaintances came along that was not a good choice, we teach our children to recognize that and disassociate with rebellious behavior. That is a level of maturity and character that they must learn and use all their life, not just as young people.
We tend to act like the people we associate with so be very careful who you allow around your children to influence them. When they are on social media and internet sites watching all the shenanigans of the world that can greatly begin to influence their thoughts, words and behavior. Monitor your children’s social media until you know they are mature enough to make quality choices and decisions on their own.
When Adam and Eve invited sin into their family, it caused their children to be cursed and split between good and evil. The children could follow sin or righteousness because of the sins of the parents. Validating the word.
Even today, if you are not careful you will commit the same sins as your parents. The only way to change that is give your life to God and change who your spiritual Father is and let Him change your DNA, heart and character to be like Him.
The world today is a very dysfunctional and confused society. We are experiencing the result of the breakdown of the family and the consequences of pushing God out of our lives.
WE NEED GOD AND THE KING JAMES BIBLE TO GUIDE US AND HELP US BE THE PEOPLE GOD CREATED US TO BE. Without God, the Bible, church, a loving peaceful happy family we become broken and damaged inside. We leave home, marry and produce that same empty family. You have the power today to change that.
When you mature and are ready for a spouse and family of your own, God has a standard and some traits for you to look for in picking a mate.
Americans do not do the dating process at all by the bible anymore. Hanging out with friends in a group of guys and girls is not a problem as long as its kept on a friendship basis.
There’s not suppose to be kissing, touching and certainly no sex going on. But today teens and even preteens have been programmed to think that sex is part of the dating and friendship stage of a relationship. That is such an abomination in the eyes of God. Especially when His Christian children think this way. SEX IS FOR ADULT MARRIED MEN AND WOMEN ONLY.
Why do our kids think its ok to sleep around before marriage? Their parents are not taking them to church regularly that speaks against it. Sex before marriage is all over TV and media. They are products of divorce and aware their single parents sleep around with people they are not married to. Their friends are all doing it. They talk about it at school and pass out condoms to help condone the behavior. Sex is not part of the dating process. Sex is not ok just because you are an adult. And having sex does not make you an adult. Having sex outside of marriage confuses your emotions and perverts your thoughts.
In a group of 50 single 18-25 year old guys and girls, there is on average only 5 or less virgins. In the 26-30 year group there is only about 2. That is a very sad statistic. Because of this behavior, we have high abortion and single parent pregnancy rates. We have high divorce or couples who are in a very unhappy marriage.
If you are unable to control your sexual urges, you should not be dating. You definitely should not be alone with someone that you are sexually attracted to. God’s plan for your life is altered when you engage in premarital sex, to the point that most people NEVER reach their God given destiny. Their twisted confused emotions cause them to make decisions about their life that God is not part of. Those premature sexual emotions also blind you from your sexual partners real character and nature. Premarital sex will also block you from hearing the voice of God guide you to the right person. If you are having sex outside of marriage STOP RIGHT NOW. Sleep in a different room if you are living with someone you are not married to. If you are dating someone, let your partner know, sex is no longer going to happen until you get married.
No one should be considering marriage until they are spiritually, physically, emotionally and financially mature. A marriage commitment is a very serious decision. Its not something you jump into because you think it will be fun for a while. That maturity is different ages for everyone. But that is when Godly parental counsel is needed.
Don’t encourage your children to move in with someone before they marry. Don’t pressure your kids to move out of the house before they are financially and emotionally ready to do so.
Marriage is for CHRISTIAN MEN AND WOMEN. Not for immature children. You are not a man just because you turned 18. Your not a woman just because you turned 18.
A mature man is someone who has formed a spiritual relationship with God and has surrendered to following His direction in life. He seeks Gods leadership for his life journey. He is able to make good Godly decisions without someone holding his hand and directing him step by step. He is able to lean on God’s spirit and follow despite what other opposing voices may be saying. He is capable of living his life independent from his parents. He is financially strong and independent; capable of caring for himself and a family. He has disciplined himself to control his emotions and his physical lusts.
A woman is held to the same moral and Godly standard. She has a personal Godly relationship and has committed to allowing God to be her guide and Father in life. She too has completed her education and chosen her financial career path in life. She has learned her domestic responsibilities and capable of caring for her daily essential needs. She has control over her emotions and sexual desires to save herself for marriage.
When the time is right and people are ready for marriage, a partner should be sought that is capable of being the man or woman described above. Don’t try to marry someone with the intentions of changing them into the person they need to be or that you want them to be. Make sure all that is done BEFORE you decide to marry.
Marriages are an equal partnership between a man and woman. They each have different roles to play but are equal in spirit, intellect, honor and respect.
Economically it is difficult for a family to live well off of one income, today in 2021. Women are expected to have jobs and careers to help out financially. That is fine because woman are just as important to business, medicine, education and commerce as a man. Many women have just as big of dreams to be successful and financially independent as men. In fact, women today would be foolish not to pursue their careers and play their God given role in society. But women were still created by God, to ALSO HOLD a specific position in the family unit whether she chooses to work outside the family or not.
The wife is called to care for her husbands reasonable physical and emotional needs. Wives are not slaves, servants, unlimited sex partners. They are usually physically weaker than the husband but not less than or weaker spiritually. A woman should have a level of domestic skill to be able to handle the responsibilities of a home. She should know how to cook and clean.
1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
Women were created by God to be comforters, loving, caretakers. They are sensitive, gentle, kind mothers by nature, to nurture, love and teach our children.
Men have a very specific role and God given position in the family as well. They are called to be providers and protectors. They must be financially independent to be able to care for themselves and a family. They are suppose to be the spiritual head of the house. He should love God and strive to be the strong, disciplined man of God he was created to be. He seeks God’s advice and direction for his life and the welfare of his family.
Men and women both should take the time in their early adult lives to pursue careers and follow their dreams and passions in life before they decide to have children. When the decision is made to bring children into their lives and relationship, that same commitment and a balanced plan to care for the children should be determined and agreed upon by BOTH husband and wife.
Today in 2022 the family unit is much different than was originally created. There are all kinds of blended families today that God is well pleased with that still abide by biblical principals.
Some people question how God feels about interracial marriages. God DOES NOT LOOK AT US OR DIVIDE US BY RACE OR COLOR. God says there are 2 kinds of people in this world. The “just” and the “unjust.” He says if the just or righteous and unjust or unrighteous try to unite in ANY KIND OF PARTNERSHIP, family or business, we are unequally yoked with one another. God does not want us in opposition with one another. He wants us in unity.
Matthew 5:45 Living Bible, “In that way you will be acting as true sons of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust too.
2 Corinthians 6:14 Living Bible, “Don’t be teamed with those who do not love the Lord, for what do the people of God have in common with the people of sin? How can light live with darkness?
God loves us all. He looks beneath your skin color because INSIDE WE ARE ALL THE SAME. If you are a white person but you are physically attracted to brown people or black people or asian people, its fine with God. As long as you are a just righteous person and they are a just righteous person. He then expects us to raise just righteous children.
Divorced men and women with children can remarry and establish a Christian family and union with one another. Adoption is a very highly acceptable thing to do. There are so many children out there who need the love and care of a Christian parent.
Remember, marriage begins with a legal union between a man and woman. You are NOT MARRIED if you do not have the legal document. You are not married just because you move in with one another. God needs that vow and covenant that is made between you, your spouse and God to make it a legal marriage.
Malachi 2:15: “… she is your companion and your wife by covenant.”
Romans 7:2, “Let me illustrate: when a woman marries, the law binds her to her husband as long as he is alive. But if he dies, she is no longer bound to him; the laws of marriage no longer apply to her
Hebrews 13:4, “Honor your marriage and its vows, and be pure;
They are committed to one another “for better or for worse, till death do you part. “ The couple is promised to submit, respect, cherish, love, protect and provide for one another’s well-being and happiness. Contracts are signed and sealed by the government in the presence of God and 2 other witnesses. That is a legal marriage in God’s eyes.
In a Christian marriage, they promise to worship God together and are devoted to pleasing Him in all they say and do. When a man or a woman is committed to pleasing God and treating their spouse the way God instructs us to, YOU WILL HAVE A HAPPY FULFILLING MARRIAGE.
A marriage is a vow and legal contract between you your spouse and God. It is usually followed by a wedding ceremony or celebration. God is more concerned with the marriage vow and binding legal commitment, than the wedding party. If you can’t afford an elaborate wedding celebration, it’s not that big of a deal. The commitment and the legal document is the main thing in the eyes of God.
God expects you to keep your marriage vow til death. When problems arise and they will, He expects you to seek His counsel and do all you can to work things out. Of course this take sacrifice and commitment from BOTH man and woman.
As far as separating for a while to work on a troubled marriage, God warns this is shaky ground and must be handled very carefully. But in cases of violence, abuse, drugs and alcohol, its best not to be in the same house with such a person until they get their issues resolved.
1 Corinthians 7:10-11 Amplified Bible, ” But to the married believers I give instructions—not I, but the Lord—that the wife is not to separate from her husband, but even if she does leave him, let her remain single or else be reconciled to her husband, and that the husband should not leave his wife.
This is not a time to go sleeping around with other people. It is a time of separation to pray and give yourself some solitude to hear from God clearly. If there is strife, violence and deception going on you have to step back from that toxic atmosphere so you can hear from God in peace. The reason God warns not to be separated for too long is because you will be tempted to sleep around and destroy your marriage even more.
1 Corinthians 7…Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Men are suppose to ask for the fathers permission to take their daughters in marriage. WHEN the father agrees and all stipulations are met, the father will hand the daughter over to the man. The man is taking the place of the dad to protect and provide for his daughter. If the dad sees the man as fit to do so, then an agreement is made.
Ephesians 5:25-33: “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,…”
If this is done in a proper fashion there is not going to be rejection from your in-laws. Everyone is happy and in agreement with the union. But if the parents not in favor of the marriage, because they see a specific character trait that will not be well for their daughter, Mom and Dads opinion should be honored and respected.
1 Corinthians 7:25-29 Living Bible, “Now I will try to answer your other question. What about girls who are not yet married? Should they be permitted to do so? In answer to this question, I have no special command for them from the Lord. But the Lord in his kindness has given me wisdom that can be trusted, and I will be glad to tell you what I think. Here is the problem: We Christians are facing great dangers to our lives at present. In times like these I think it is best for a person to remain unmarried. Of course, if you already are married, don’t separate because of this. But if you aren’t, don’t rush into it at this time. But if you men decide to go ahead anyway and get married now, it is all right; and if a girl gets married in times like these, it is no sin. However, marriage will bring extra problems that I wish you didn’t have to face right now. The important thing to remember is that our remaining time is very short, and so are our opportunities for doing the Lord’s work. For that reason those who have wives should stay as free as possible for the Lord;
When a man is ready to take on a wife and family he is suppose to leave the house of his parents. There can only be one head of household. Men can not follow God properly if they are still under the rulership and authority of their parents house.
Mark 10:6-7
But it certainly isn’t God’s way. For from the very first he made man and woman to be joined together permanently in marriage; therefore a man is to leave his father and mother,
You leave the authority of their house and bond with your wife. You don’t have to move across the country. You don’t stop loving your parents and needing their wisdom and Godly counsel. You don’t stop loving them and enjoying their friendship. You don’t stop hanging out with one another. But you must transfer your submission from your parents, to God and your spouse at marriage. Now instead of trying to please your parents, you are compromising and humbling yourself to please your spouse.
Now you and your spouse are trying to live as one. You are talking to one another and seeking areas where you can bond together as one in thought and action. When there are disagreements, you communicate with one another about it and work it out. You pray together and follow God’s instructions.
Parents should not agree to hand their children over in marriage BEFORE they are mature and ready. Parents know their sons and daughters strengths and weaknesses. They know when their children are ready to leave home and have families of their own. They know if the partner they have chosen is acceptable for their child and a wonderful asset to the family.
Today society tries to set standards and expectations that are NOT God designed and God led. If your son or daughter is 40 and still not ready for a commitment to marriage, then fine. Maybe marriage is not part of Gods plan for them. If your daughters and sons are educated, financially secure and emotionally stable and ready for marriage even at 18 that’s fine too. God and the bible sets the standard and stipulations for a couple who are ready for marriage not the world and not peer pressure.
Another problem today is children do not honor and respect their parents and their parents advice like they should. They rebel, run off and do whatever they wish which is usually led by their immature emotions. They end up choosing partners who have the same dishonorable and disrespectful character flaws as they do.
If you are having sex outside of marriage, living with someone outside of marriage, having babies with someone outside of marriage, YOU ARE OUT OF THE WILL OF GOD. There is deliberate sin in your life and that is separating you from the voice of God that you need to be able to hear and follow. You CAN NOT have a good Christian relationship with God, while engaged in this behavior.
Starting a marriage or any relationship out with these ungodly traits is going to end up in a disaster. It is going to keep you out of the will of God for your life and detoured from the life journey He has planned for you.
If your son or daughter is not emotionally and financially ready to face the world independently from their parents then they should not agree to a marriage. The sons and daughters should be mature enough to recognize they are not ready for marriage either. If you have that respectful loving honorable relationship with your parents, you should seek their advice and counsel.
You don’t have to be out on your own already BEFORE you marry but you should “be able” to be out on your own. Staying at home with family until you find that special person to share your life with, is not at all looked down upon in God’s eyes. Jesus stayed home with his mother till He was 30 before He went out on His mission.
American society today tries to ridicule and set the timing and standard of when your children should leave home, but the world is far from the ways of God so it doesn’t matter what they think is right or normal. Do what is right for you. If you can live on your own, enjoy your independence and maintain a close relationship with God then do it. If you want to stay home till you marry that’s fine too.
Marriage is not something that should be rushed into. It takes time to form a bond and friendship with a partner and your partners family. It takes time to establish your independence.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment in God’s eyes so you want to make sure you’re ready for that commitment before you decide to do it.
The bible does not condemn interracial marriages. God just wants there to be a united commitment to Him and a family led by peace. If marrying outside your race or religion is going to cause strife and division with your extended family and in-laws, you should get those issues healed and resolved first. You are marrying one another but you are also marrying their families too.
Let peace be your guide. If there is constant bickering and rejection inside the family over race, culture or religious practices then take a step back to seek God and know what HIS ADVICE IS.
Ephesians 4:2-3: “With all humility and gentleness, with patience, bearing with one another in love, eager to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace
God’s requirement for ALL MARRIAGES is that you are of the same spiritual family. Otherwise God says you are “unequally yoked” and from the very beginning your marriage and family will not be able to bond with one another “as one” like God commands.
2 Corinthians 6:14 King James Version, “ Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
Matthew 19:4-6 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
God does not approve of divorce unless one of the partners commits adultery, abandonment and abuse.
Mark 10:9: “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Matthew 19:9 (ESV) And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.
Romans 7:3, “Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
If you are already married to an unbeliever but they treat you well, fulfil their spousal obligations and don’t want to be divorced, God says stay with them. Maybe your Christian influences will convince them to become a Christian too. But if the spouse is abusive and wants to leave the bible says let them go so you can live in peace with God.
Matthew 19:9, “And I tell you this, that anyone who divorces his wife, except for fornication, and marries another, commits adultery.
1 Corinthians 7:15 Living Bible, “But if the husband or wife who isn’t a Christian is eager to leave, it is permitted. In such cases the Christian husband or wife should not insist that the other stay, for God wants his children to live in peace and harmony.
If you decide to get a divorce, the bible says there must be another legal document presented to void out the marriage agreement. Youre not divorced just because you move in with someone else or move out of the house with your partner.
Matthew 5:31 Living Bible, “The law of Moses says, ‘If anyone wants to be rid of his wife, he can divorce her merely by giving her a letter of dismissal.’
Deuteronomy 24:1, “Amp When a man takes a wife and marries her, and it happens that she loses his favor because he has found something indecent or unacceptable about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house,
Finding a good wife or husband that loves God and will love and be committed to you is a priceless jewel. But they are out there. Just be patient and wait on the Lord to bring them to you.
Proverbs 31:10: “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.”
Ephesians 5:21: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
When you mistreat your spouse in words actions or attitude God is not well pleased with you. Your prayers are hindered and God will not release blessings to you until it is cleared up.
1 Peter 3:7: “In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.”
If you are already divorced, there is no reason to treat your ex with disrespect and hate, especially if the two of you are sharing children together. You have separated so go on with your life. But the children you share should still see you acting like a Christian and treating one another with respect and consideration. This very seldom happens, which means you are planting bad emotional and spiritual seeds into your children that can damage their future relationships. God IS NOT pleased with parents who have this behavior and subject the children to this emotional abuse.
Unfortunately, today the family unit has veered off course. God does not approve of men and women living together or having sex together outside of marriage.
God does not approve of marriages where there is strife, fighting, arguing, disrespect and dishonor. God does not approve of homosexual marriages and relationships.
God does not approve of couples who have children and then abandon them to be raised by a single parent or left to make it on their own with no parent.
God does not approve of parents who abuse their children physically or emotionally.
Children are a gift from God. Another generation to be born into the family of God and sent to fulfil a purpose here on earth.
Psalm 127:3 tells us, “Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him.”
God does not approve of people who are hateful and mean to others even if you feel like they deserve it.
GOD NEVER CHANGES. His standard for a Christian marriage and a Christian family are the same as they have always been. God did not change the rules, man did. Society changed the family rules and definition to excuse their sinful behavior and craziness. God’s ways and expectations for family is not outdated. You will be judged by God’s family standards one day. He don’t care what the world’s idea of right and wrong are. They are always wrong.
A Christian family unit is where God dwells and expresses Himself. No human being can see God with their natural eyes but we show people God by allowing HIS CHARACTER, HIS PERSONALITY, HIS HEART, HIS SPIRIT, to be expressed through us. This is the family that pleases God. This is the family that represents God. This is the family God is calling all His children to be part of.
A family can be as little as 2 people. A husband and wife. If you do not have a spouse or an extended family God said He will be your family.
Matthew 18:20, “For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.”
The key word here for a Christian family is “IN MY NAME.” When a group of people are gathered together with one heart, one soul, and one purpose, to love God and please Him, they are a family according to God.
The whole family should take on the confession of “as for me and my house WE WILL SERVE THE LORD.” (Joshua 24:15)
When you do the blessing and goodness and presence of God will rest upon you all.
Men, you should look for a Godly Christian woman to marry. One who conducts herself respectfully and lives according to the word of God. A woman who wants to please God is going to also please her husband.
Women look for a Godly man. A man that knows God and is led by God. A man that loves you and respects you like God does. A man who is pleasing God is pleasing his wife. A man who loves God is also loving his wife.
When you marry and have children raise your sons and daughters to live in the same fashion. Instruct your sons and daughters to look for spouses and raise their children by the same guidelines and convictions.
When we do that, we are filling this earth with Godly Christian families from generation to generation JUST LIKE GOD ORIGINALLY INTENDED.
If you are already in a bad marriage or a bad relationship, its not too late to change and fix it. You’ll have to go back to face the demons you compromised on in the beginning. You’ll have to draw a line in the sand and say “look I am making a decision to be a Christian. I want to be married to a Christian. And I’m going to follow God no matter what you do.” Then stick to it and follow God. The bible says if they want to stay and respect your decision then let them stay. But if they want to go let them go.
If your unsaved spouse wants to try to stop you from living that Christian life and having a Christian family and home then someone needs to leave. God wants HIS CHILDREN to be happy and live in peace MORE THAN He wants His children to stay in an ungodly abusive marriage with a spawn of Satan.
Don’t worry about the children. Don’t stay in an abusive situation for the children. God will make sure your children respect your decision and learn valuable life lessons that should help them choose the right mate when they are ready to marry. God knows how and will provide all your needs for you and your children without the help of the ungodly. Show your children how to trust God and stand up to the right things in life.
The spirit that is controlling you is controlling your family. Everyone in the family must be unified of the same faith and spirit to be able to love completely and live the life God requires.
God loves all mankind, whether you are rebellious or obedient. However, just because God loves you does not mean He will tolerate, endorse or accept your bad rebellious behavior. As our Father and example for life, we MUST conduct our family the same way. We love our family. We pray for our family. As a parent we discipline and teach our children. But when they are old enough to make their own decisions you must still keep your same convictions and godly standard, but allow them to walk their own walk and let God deal with them as the adult they are.
The bible says when we train our children right, even if they stray when they get older and out on their own, they will soon come to their senses and come back to God.
Proverbs 22:6 Living Bible, “Teach a child to choose the right path, and when he is older, he will remain upon it.
When you love your children, you will discipline them when they need it. Discipline helps train a child that there are consequences to bad behavior. Discipline also helps to teach your child self-control and respect for the one who laid down the law.
It’s unbelievable to even watch and listen to, but some parents are telling their children even though they were born a boy or a girl they can be anyone they want to be. They are telling their children that changing your gender and dressing up in transgender attire is perfectly normal. But it is not normal. IT IS MENTAL ILLNESS. And parents are emotionally and mentally abusing their children by telling them this insanity is “normal”. If parents are too crazy to know the difference, they should not have the right to have children.
Lets be clear, If you were born with a penis you are a boy. If you are born with a vagina you are a girl. THAT’S IT. THAT’S HOW GOD SEES IT TOO. Any other judgment or logic is perverted and insane. God will hold these parents responsible for teaching their children this twisted nonsense.
For the record there are NO LGBTQ, TRANSGENDER, or HOMOSEXUALS in Heaven. The One True God is not in the middle of this sin or deception. The One True God does not approve of this behavior. And God does not like it if you are ok with the behavior.
Romans 1:32 Living Bible, “They were fully aware of God’s death penalty for these crimes, yet they went right ahead and did them anyway and encouraged others to do them, too.”
Children are a gift from God. It does not matter if you are a married parent or a divorced parent, God holds you responsible for the children you bring into this world. Not just financially but spiritually and emotionally as well.
Children are taught by spoken words but also by example. You have to tell your children the behavior and attitude you expect from them. You should get your direction and teaching from the bible and make sure your children know you believe this way and expect things from them because GOD SAID SO.
But your most powerful influence on your child is not the words you speak it’s the example you set for them to follow. And they are watching you whether you think so or not.
Don’t sit in your living room smoking, cussing watching nasty movies and then tell your kids not to. Don’t yell scream break things and then tell your kids to control their emotions and watch their mouth. Don’t cheat and sleep around with people outside of marriage and then tell your kids not to. Don’t have unchristian compromising friends and then tell your kids not to. Don’t go out all night or till all hours of the morning and then tell your teenagers to be home by 10. Don’t go out in public being rude racist and disrespectful to others and then tell your children not to. WATCH YOURSELF, BECAUSE YOUR KIDS ARE WATCHING YOU TOO.
Just because you are an adult, does not mean you have a right to act stupid and ungodly. In God’s eyes we are ALL CHILDREN and He is watching you and expecting even greater behavior and discipline from you than He does your young children.
It is God’s design that our flesh and blood family are also our spiritual family. If you were raised by two Christian parents and you are also a born-again Christian yourself, then that is the case for you. Your blood family is the same as your spiritual family.
Unfortunately, in this present generation, families are so dysfunctional and broken from abuse, divorce and ungodliness that many children can’t wait to get out of the house and away from their ungodly parents. Or they could go in the same direction of their parents and act just as crazy and ungodly as they were raised. Again, the fruit does not usually fall far from the tree.
But that is why God gave us Jesus. So, we have the power to make the choice to enter into a new spiritual family with God at any time we want to. We have the power to disassociate with our ungodly flesh and blood families. When we enter into God’s family and get adopted by Him, He introduces us to the rest of His spiritual family. He will bring good Christian people into your life if you choose it. That’s why church is important. It’s not just important to our spirit and soul, it keeps us in communication and relationship with other like-minded Christian people.
Your children need to see you loving one another, honoring and respecting one another. But they also need to see you honoring God as the Ultimate leader of your home and family.
If you were raised by true Christian parents, they showed you unconditional love, encouraged you to be the best person you could be, corrected you when you were wrong, comforted you when you were sad, blessed you and provided for you to the best of their ability. Christian parents show their children what God is like and teach their children as much about our heavenly Father as we can through words and living example.
Christian parents use the King James bible as their guide for life and the reason they make the choices and decisions in their life. They then teach their children to do the same thing. This keeps the Godly Christian family values being passed on from generation to generation the way God intended.
Strong families with good Christian morals and principals is what makes a strong nation. It keeps your community and workplace functioning smoothly and successful when everyone is living by the values of God and the bible. It wasn’t even 100 years ago that people could go borrow money from banks with just a handshake. Why? Because generally people had integrity and kept their word and their commitments no matter what. People generally has a sense of righteousness and desired to follow that character trait.
Today in 2021, the family unit is very messed up and dysfunctional. People have no integrity or sense of commitment. No one keeps their word. People don’t seem to have a problem making plans and promises one day and breaking them the next day.
I know CHRISTIAN families that go to church every week together and argue when they get home and the rest of the week. THIS IS A MAJOR PROBLEM. God is not in the middle of strife and confusion. God said specifically that if a house is not all on the same goal and mission it will be divided and fall apart.
Mark 3:25, “And if a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand.
You have to sit down and talk with people you are living with. You have to be able to CALMLY, RESPECTFULLY, discuss issues that get on one another’s nerves or bitterness and resentment will set in and tear you apart.
The sad part is many families break up or have hard feelings toward one another over small insignificant things. But they build up and snowball till the emotions are way out of hand.
This book is called, “Lets Talk Face to Face TODAY,” That means before the sun goes down sit down and resolve some things with your family. Get on the same page. We are living in the last days before the rapture of the church. YOU ARE GOING TO DESPERATELY NEED YOUR FAMILY.
Ephesians 4:26 Living Bible, “If you are angry, don’t sin by nursing your grudge. Don’t let the sun go down with you still angry—get over it quickly;
Get over it quickly TODAY. Don’t sit and stew it over and over in your brain. That gives Satan time and ammunition to make things even worse.
Take responsibility and accountability for your actions and the role you are playing in the situation. FIND OUT WHAT YOU NEED TO DO AND THE CHANGE YOU NEED TO MAKE. Then do it. If you really love one another you will go through the effort and do whatever it takes to fix your relationships.
Start your talks out in prayer and end them in prayer. God needs to be a member of this discussion. If people will do that and sincerely want to work things out then YOU WILL. Especially among people you claim to LOVE.
But because people refuse to talk respectfully and make some changes and adjustments, families, communities and businesses are unstable and unreliable. Families and businesses fall apart. There’s an undercurrent of bad feelings, resentment, strife, unforgiveness that keeps the family divided and against one another. Strife and chaos is constantly at work. GOD MOVES IN UNITY, PEACE AND LOVE, NOT STRIFE.
People are having children and sending them out in society as messed up people who are more of a burden on society than an asset. Just lost and trouble with no sense of purpose.
They don’t have a clue what’s actually right and wrong and therefore very vulnerable to the lies of others from schools, friends and family and the media.
People take drugs, drink, and turn to sexual promiscuity to calm their fears anxiety and hurt from the physical and emotional abuse they went through in their families as children. People are confused about their own sexual orientation and what it means to be a man or a woman that you were born to be.
Our society and government has redefined “family” from the standards that God created to compensate for all their sin, dysfunction, failures and psychotic behavior. The insanity influences people to say its much easier and satisfies your selfish feelings and emotions to say this feels right so I SAY it is right. But we don’t change what God has designed and defined. God has the last word over His creation. God sets the definition of family and the Christian standards He expects us to live by.
Because of this sin and craziness, we have a world of people and families that are functioning everyday out of the will of God and headed for a destructive future. They live their whole life as a lie and never achieve what God has planned for them. Then they die and spend eternity in torment instead of the Kingdom of God.
It was much easier to be a Christian family 75 years ago because most families here in the United States lived by Christian moral bible standards. Today people are twisted and sin is so perverse and saturated that living a bible-based life and having a bible-based family is not even considered normal behavior anymore. The world actually criticizes and ridicules good conservative people and families.
If you are an adult here in the United States you have the power and opportunity to change your life and your family’s life today and get on the right track.
God’s design and instructions to the Christian family is very simple.
EVERY Christian family begins with the lawful marriage of a Christian man to a Christian woman. That is God’s requirements. If you are already married each one of you have the choice to give your life to God and have Him bless your union together. Living together is NOT a marriage in God’s eyes.
This is a story of a woman who Jesus spoke with who had been married a few times and was living with someone unmarried.
John 4:16-18 Living Bible, “Go and get your husband,” Jesus told her. “But I’m not married,” the woman replied. All too true!” Jesus said. “For you have had five husbands, and you aren’t even married to the man you’re living with now.”
A marriage requires a written LEGAL vow and document between you, your spouse and God. Without it, you are not married.
On the other hand, a divorce also requires a legal written decree of divorce between you, your spouse and God. If you are married God holds you to that agreement and judges you accordingly until a divorce is LEGALLY final.
Matthew 5:31-32 The Message, “Remember the Scripture that says, ‘Whoever divorces his wife, let him do it legally, giving her divorce papers and her legal rights’? Too many of you are using that as a cover for selfishness and whim, pretending to be righteous just because you are ‘legal.’ Please, no more pretending. If you divorce your wife, you’re responsible for making her an adulteress (unless she has already made herself that by sexual promiscuity). And if you marry such a divorced adulteress, you’re automatically an adulterer yourself. You can’t use legal cover to mask a moral failure.
Not family or friend should ever come before your relationship with God. He is your number one priority. When you put God first all the other obligations and relationships fall in place as they should. If God is not first then your attention and priorities get out of line and you stray off the life course God has for you.
God wants to be your first priority, but God is not selfish. He would never expect you to ditch your family or leave your family unless they were interfering with your God given purpose. Most of the time our Christian loving families help us fulfill our God given purpose.
God has been very specific how He wants His children to find a mate. He first and foremost wants you to stay within the Christian family. When two true mature Christians get married, the foundation of that marriage is solid. No matter what life brings against them they can handle it together.
Although beauty and success is admirable, you should never marry for that purpose. You marry someone because their heart and soul for God is the same as yours. You have some of the same interest. Your goals and ambitions in life are the same. You respect each other and honor one another. You put each other’s needs and desires ahead of your own.
This is a two-way street. If both the husband and the wife are following this character and behavior God is pleased and your partner will be pleased. Your marriage will be strong and survive the conflict.
God is love. When you truly love your partner and God the blessing of the Lord will be upon you, your children and everything you come together to accomplish as a couple.
Your partner must respect your relationship with God. If they have the same relationship as you there will be no controversy about the priority of the family. It will be pretty much understood.
I am going to repeat this again because so much of this nation is confused about homosexuals. God does not recognize homosexuals as part of His family and He does not accept same sex marriages. There are NO LGBTQ people or couples in Heaven. God loves you, but HE DOES NOT ACCEPT the homosexual lifestyle. He set consequences to that choice and behavior way back at the creation of the world. You have the power to stop practicing that behavior if you want to. You have the right to have biblical love for whoever you want to, but you do not have the right to have sex with whoever you want.
God expects that “married” Christian man and Christian woman to have children and carry on the Christian traditions of the King James bible. Live and share the love of God with one another. Enjoy your life everyday and be thankful.
Society and the government have redefined and rewritten the definition of a family. But God and the bible is your judge and your guide, not society and not the government. You must be conducting your life and your family by the standards of God and the bible.
It is your responsibility to learn your bible and form a personal relationship with God. It is your responsibility to assume the role you have in your family. Its your responsibility to make the necessary changes in your life and in your family to line up with what God says a family should be.
God explains the position of the man, the woman and the children in the bible. Learn it and make the necessary changes.
If you recognize the dysfunction in your family and it is in your power to change it, then change it. If its not in your ability to change it then you might have to leave it and move away from the sin and dysfunction.
We all have people in our families and extended families that refuse to live by the standards of the bible. As a child you might have to tolerate it. But as an adult you have the power to get away from it. God knows your position and holds you responsible for the choices that you have the power to make. Jesus Himself had prostitutes, murderers, thieves and liars in His family tree. He saved the ones who wanted to change and walked away from the ones who refused. Jesus is our example to follow. Love them, Pray for them but do not accept or enable the behavior.
God is our Creator. He knows what we need as human beings. He knows what families must be like in order for us to be the Christians He created us to be. He knows what makes this world and society function properly.
You might think the 70-90 years you live here on earth is all there is in life. But our short life here on Earth is just the training ground to prepare us for an eternity in Heaven.
James 4:14, “Amplified bible, “Yet you do not know [the least thing] about what may happen in your life tomorrow. [What is secure in your life?] You are merely a vapor [like a puff of smoke or a wisp of steam from a cooking pot] that is visible for a little while and then vanishes [into thin air].
If you don’t prepare YOURSELF AND YOUR FAMILY for Heaven while you are here on earth then you go to Hell for eternity when you leave. There are no second chances to come back and do it again.
At the creation of this planet, God was designing a world of Christians. Heaven is full of Christian people and Christian families. We are all members of God’s Christian family. If we live here on earth the way God commands then we will be happy, joyful, full of love and success. We will be Heaven ready to have an eternity of the same thing when we leave this planet. We will enter into the Godly Christian world that God has created for all of us who have followed His instructions and surrendered ourselves to Him.
I know some of this was repeated. God repeated His points in the bible over and over again as well BECAUSE ITS IMPORTANT TO GET THE MESSAGE IN YOUR HEART AND HEAD.
One day very soon, you will leave this world and be standing before God to give account of your life. He’s not going to ask you how much money you made and how big your house was. He’s not going to ask you if you were popular on social media. He’s not going to ask you if the world loved you.
He’s going to ask you why you did not live your life here on earth and raise your family and children the way HE SAYS is right. He’s going to ask you what good did you do and what Godly legacy did you leave behind.
He’s going to hold you accountable and responsible for the people in your lives ESPECIALLY THE CHILDREN YOU PRODUCED. He’s going to judge you accordingly. You’ll have no excuse because God will say I told you what to do in the book of John or the book of Ephesians in the King James bible. He’s going to say I sent someone to tell you what was right and you chose to follow the world’s way and not MY WAY.
God has the same standard of living for people and families no matter what your color, gender, race, social status, employment status, political position or RELIGIOUS beliefs are. You better get your King James bible out, dust it off, read it and do whatever it says. If your church believes and preaching something contrary to the bible about family and marriage, find another church.
Stop watching all that craziness on your cell phone. Stop watching and listening to all the perversion and dysfunction people are doing. Don’t watch ungodly television shows where people are cussing, sleeping around and acting stupid.
Just know, conforming to the worlds twisted definition of family instead of holding to the truths of Gods definition of family has destroyed this nation and separated you from the presence and voice of ALMIGHTY GOD.
Families need one another to accomplish our GOD GIVEN role in this world. We need the love, support and nurturing of our parents and family unit to develop the secure sane and balanced emotion that helps us to be successful. We need the financial support and union with one another to help us form the solid foundation to be successful.
God DID NOT put us in this world to do life ALONE. God’s plan for human life started and will end with families working together in one accord, in union and commitment to one another and to Him.
If you really love your family and If they are absolutely the most important people on this Earth to you, then you will do whatever it takes to get your household straight and on the right path. God expects you to do that. God will hold you responsible if you don’t.
If your family is out of balance and God is not the center of it, you are probably not hearing from God. God speaks and flows in a unified peaceful household filled with His love.
If you are the Christian in your family, God has appointed YOU a watchman over your family. You have the responsibility to seek God’s advise and direction on what is best for you and your loved ones. You and your family will suffer without God’s help as we get closer to the rapture of the church.
As I keep saying these SINS that you are choosing everyday will be the death of you and your family one day soon. You have the power and the responsibility to make some quality changes for you and your family TODAY.
Joshua 24:15 Living Bible, “But if you are unwilling to obey the Lord, then decide today whom you will obey. As for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”